Doing something that is ought to be done a long time ago give the sense of relief.
Sometimes we seem to have too much on our plate and we have to weigh which is more important to deal with first. What is your criteria?
Work? Family? Friends?
If you are put in the position to choose, which will come in mind as your priority?
We each have 24 hours a day, no more, no less. What we choose to do with our time determines who we are. We may not have the privilege to think.
Workaholics are people who put work above everything else. It is as if they are married to their work. Whatever work might be, they are just too busy to deal with everything else. Sometimes, the family supports them. Sometimes, the friends understand them. But have they ever realize that it is not other people’s responsibility to put up with them all the time?
As a workaholic, you might be missing too much in life. Yes. Work is important to put food on the table for the entire family. You may be thinking that you are doing your best to provide for everyone but have you ever thought that they too yearn for your attention? Some parents keep complaining that their children are a nuisance without realizing that it might be purposeful to catch the attention from the people they love.
Some people are simply very close to their family. They are so closely knit that other people might envy the wonderful relationship they have. Even when there is a chance for promotion at work, they would gladly turn down the offer just because they want to spend more time with their family. They are considered the beautiful bunch. They are hard to find, scarcity in the current society.
However, there may come a time when you are torn in between two families. Your family, and your in-laws. Is it possible to create the best outcome in such circumstances? You have to realize that sometimes, giving in too much to the demands of everyone is chaos in the making. You can never satisfy every single person in your family. This is the time for decision making. One with not much choice and is bound to create unhappiness in the other. Every decision has an outcome.
The youngsters, on the other hand, are very often friend-focused. It is everything about their friends. Wherever the friends go, they will want to go. Whatever the friends do, they will want in. Nothing else matters. Everything that the boss says is probably too stressful. Everything that the family says is probably nagging. Everything that the friends say is always right.
Do be careful with the mix. It is always great to meet with new people. It is also rather easy to fall into the friendship trap whereby you can no longer think for yourself because you are too dependent on what everyone else says. You should realize that there is no such thing as forever friends or foe. Sometimes, in certain circumstances, your best friend can be your worst enemy and your most hated enemy can be the one saving you from dirt. Nothing ever is certain.
Have you forgotten another relationship, one that is most important of all relationships?
YOU!
You are always thinking of work, always ahead of what your boss wants.
You are always thinking of everyone else around you, meeting their needs at all times.
How about you?
When was the last time you spent a minute with you for you? Have you been thinking of what you really need as a human being? Do you know what is the one thing that is missing in your life? Is there a time when your mind is totally blank, of the presentation to your boss, of the chores waiting for you at home, or of the outfit for the class reunion this coming weekend?
There are people who would only think of one word, “ME”. But there are also people who have never thought of this very important two letter word. In two far ends, we are all humans after all, with very different mindset. It is selfish to think of yourself all the time but it is foolish not to care for yourself either.
Find the balance between caring for yourself and others. We are all important enough to deserve love at all times.
In all aspects of our lives balance is key. Doing one thing too much can cause upset, like the old saying goes, everything in moderation is the secret!
Catherine Pulsifer, author
Who am I?
Some people are born with the gift of knowing who they really are, who they want to become, and they have the chance to make their dreams come true. These are probably the lucky few.
Most people, however, either do not know who they really are, or who they want to become, or they do know but they are just not born in the right condition to let them shine. Whatever the reason is we choose to give ourselves, if we dig deep enough, it is usually our emotions that is taking over our mind and controlling over our life.
Have you ever wanted something so bad you are willing to give up anything and everything to get it? As adults, we would probably smile and say that only a child would be as foolish as to throwaway everything he already has in order to pursue something that is uncertain in all ways. Perhaps we would end up living a hell throughout the remaining years in our lives. Perhaps we would succeed and become a notable person in history. People are often bogged down by fear of losing it all.
As a child, you have probably had dreams far beyond imagination. You want to become an astronaut to go see the moon and stars up close. You would probably have built space ships with empty bottles and put a cape on your back to pretend that you can fly to infinity. These are beautiful times when there is nothing to worry about in life. You probably have peers having the same thinking as you do. You form discussion groups and work on projects to make your dreams a reality. You are creative.
What happened to the child in you? What happened to your fearless self?
Over the years, while growing up, you probably have encountered elders telling you of things you should leave behind. Back then, your dreams are important. Somehow, along the way, you need to come back to reality. Your dreams are a total setback and you have kept them locked in the deepest part of you, in a chest with such a huge bolt, it is impossible to unlock it anymore.
You become who you should be. You go to school. You get good results in examinations. You come out to society and you start to work your way up the corporate ladder. You excel in your job. You get promotions all the way up. You find your life partner. You get married and have children of your own. You have a mortgage to pay up. You have your children to bring up. But your dreams have been buried, so deep you can no longer uncover it.
Now your children have all grown to become adults. You are already in your golden years. Your children have children of their own. They are walking your footsteps, to become the person they adore most, you. Perhaps they are living the life of their dreams, perhaps not. Somehow, it does not seem important to have a dream after all. You have your grandchildren to love and show you love. You should be fulfilled.
As age catches up, health declines. You are not in the hospital bed. You have all the time to flash back in your younger days. You talk about those days a lot. You suddenly realize that there is something missing. Despite the happy and smooth life that you have had, there is still a void within. What is that? Why are you feeling emptiness inside when you already have what others say as a complete life?
It is your dreams.
You have been living the perfect life in the eyes of everyone but you are not living the life of your own. You look in the mirror, you see your face but you do not see the truth inside of you.
You look in the mirror, you see your body but you do not see the life you lead.
You look in the mirror, you see everything down to the acne but you cannot see through your soul.
You are you, nobody can change that. Have you been true to yourself? Or are you just merely being someone you are not?
Who is the person you see in the reflection?
Who is the person you really are?
Why is my reflection someone I don’t know?
Hua Mulan (花木蘭), Female warrior from the Northern and Southern dynasties era
How do you feel today?
Are you a pleasant person to be around with? Sometimes we think too much of our surroundings that we forget about the most important things of all. Ourselves.
It is not to say that we should only think about ourselves and leave everyone else be. The people around us are important. Many of times we have over expectations of ourselves to meet the expectations of others.
As a child, how often have you followed the instructions of your parents? When we were children, we tend to think all that our parents teach us is correct because our minds are like a blank sheet of paper. Whatever our parents do, we tend to follow. Whatever our parents say, we tend to mimic. It is just natural. There is probably only a handful out there who would have their own mindset at such a tender age.
Back then, if a child talks back to the parents, they would be considered as a difficult child. It is due to the teachings passed down from generations to generations. No party is at fault. Perhaps parents should spend time understanding why the child is behaving as such. May be the child is notorious. May be not. It is the duty of parents to find out why their children act as such instead of just giving them the negative notion that their parents have been using on them over the years. It is not fair to just simply judge based on what we see on the surface.
In the current modern age, if a child talks back to the parents, they would be labelled differently by individuals. Times have changed. The old ways are not always agreed by everyone anymore. Some will still label the child as disobedient. Some will be able to see that the child is hungry for attention from the parents. Some will be amazed how the child can be so intelligent. Whatever everyone else say is not important. It is still the responsibility of the parents to understand why their children behave such a way.
Parents have a huge responsibility over the family that they are trying to build. It is time to realize that, as a parent, you cannot escape being someone you might not be. If you choose to have children with your partner, you have the responsibility over how your children develop. There is no doubt about it.
Many parents these days are just too busy to spend time with their family. Perhaps it is time to ask yourselves these questions.
Are you starting a family because of willingness?
Are you starting a family because it is the right thing to do?
Are you starting a family because everyone else is doing it?
Are you starting a family because it was an unexpected event?
Are you starting a family because you want to please your partner?
The sense of willingness is at stake. Many people just start having a family for the sake of giving their parents grandchildren. Some people just start having a family because their friends all have children. Whatever it is, it is by choice. Nobody can force you to do anything you do not wish to do. Once you have chosen, it is your responsibility to stay till the end.
Whether or not the child is born in the way you want, you are responsible.
Whether or not the child is grows up to be the person you are proud of, you are responsible.
You are totally responsible for your child. Never ever blame your children for keeping you at home, not being able to go clubbing with your friends. Never ever blame your children for spending too much time with computer games when you yourself are on your smart phone all the time. Never ever blame your children for acting out whenever something does not happen the way they want because they are just mimicking you. Never ever blame your children for being closer to your maid than you because you never spend enough time with them. Never ever blame your children for talking back at you as you never keep your promise to them.
It is easy to play the blame game but ultimately, being a good parent is not a job, it is a responsibility.
To say you have no choice is to relieve yourself of responsibility.
Patrick Ness, British-American author and lecturer, 1971-present
Perception is important and dangerous altogether.
Humans very commonly judge a book by its cover. Sight is most used of all senses and each time we see something, we believe it is true. While it is true at that moment, it may not be so before and after that very moment itself. When two people fight, the winner seems to be cruel while the loser gets pity from everyone. However, we do not know head or tail of the whole story. The winner could have been the good guy provoked to the point he breaks. The loser could have been pretending in order to get attention or help. How often do we arrive early for the pre-fight and stay till the end for the post-fight?
Most of the time, we will listen to the people around us talking about other people or issues, especially those that concern us. We may be skeptical at the beginning. Somehow, when more and more people are talking about the same thing, rumours turn into reality. It is believed that a lie can become the truth when it is repeated more than a thousand times. A rumour is the most dangerous silent killer. It can kill respect. It can kill trust. It can kill confidence. It can kill relationships. Worst off, it can also take a life. Before we contribute to this sin, it would be better off to verify how much truth there is to a statement.
While we are aware that what we see could only be partial of the story and what we hear could be a total hoax, whatever we do is entirely up to us. We know there are hotlines to report home violence, will we take the liberty to pick up the phone and dial that number if we become aware of one such cases? We know that Mother Nature is crying in pain, will we step up and step out to fend for her and to protect her at all costs? We know that wild or stray animals do not like to come into contact with humans unless they have been forced to do so, will we leave a crop out there for them to feed their families?
Becoming aware of something is entirely different from really putting efforts to change for the better. We are aware of many things around us, what have we done to improve the situation?
We have our own freedom to interpret things our own way. Some say we should all do good but the meaning of good is understood differently by everyone. This brings us to the most sensitive issue that not many would dare to touch, religion. We each believe teachings of our own religion is the best. We selectively believe the people who spread the teachings and seldom question their interpretation because we have the perception that they are the devotees of the almighty. We should ask our inner senses. We should ask if whatever the person is telling us to do is really the religion itself. Or, if there is a slight chance that the person may have other agenda. Nobody can force us into doing something we are not willing to.
We should believe our own interpretation, and not blindly follow the insight of others.
We are born with a special gift. One that we have forgotten because of distractions. If we look back at our younger years, what is the major change from who we were to who we are now? We used to be the child of many thoughts. We imagined everything impossible and we strongly think that we are right. Children have the purest thoughts. As adults, we are consistently worried that the child might be cheated to take the wrong path. Perhaps we have a pure heart to help them but if we are to be overprotective all the time, will the child ever grow to learn the ups and downs of life itself?
Put ourselves in our children’s shoes. How well will we fair if we had us as our parents? Being protective is the norm. Letting our children choose their own path while teaching them moral is really what parents around the world should be doing. Sometimes we learn a hundred lessons in one failure, better than any classroom can ever teach. Never cushion them when they fall, only then they will learn to heal and get up as a renewed person.
Being positive is great. Having positive perception and approach is priceless.
If you can change your perception, you can change your emotion and this can lead to new ideas.
Edward Charles Francis Publius de Bono (Edward de Bono), Maltese psychologist and author who originated the term lateral thinking in Six Thinking Hats, 1933-present
The early bird catches the worm!
We have always been told to be early for everything and anything. This cannot be far from the truth. When the opportunity is here, we best catch it and make the best of it before it leaves. Opportunities are everywhere. It is up to us to identify which one suits us best. When we are certain of it, go all out.
Many times, we see a problem as a mere problem. Our mind is somehow locked in the problem itself and we never see the opportunity every problem brings us. It is a test. A test to see how well we cope with situations. Time can tell. We may not be able to see it now but we actually learn best in difficult situations. When there is no turning back, when there is no room for error, that is when we perform best.
It does not matter if we fail, it only matters if we learn from our past mistakes and make more educated decisions along the way.
Usually we want to be early in meetings. It sets a great impression to the person we are meeting. We show that we are keen on the agenda. We show that we respect the entire session. However, being early is not the only thing we should focus on. Preparedness is also a matter of consideration. If we are merely early, we are only showing respect to a certain extent. If we are early and prepared, we are hitting the bullseye. That is the ultimate goal we want to achieve.
Though there may be unfair advantage in some situations, we should always do our best at tackling all prospects. We always look on the bright side but should also always prepared for the worst. What can happen if we are to fail? What can happen if we are mocked? What can happen if nobody cares?
We have to have a clear mindset that nothing ever matters more than life. If we are not appreciated at that moment, it only means that we have another chance ahead of us to do better, to be better. There is always something to learn everywhere we are, in all situations. We just have to stay focused and look beyond what is clouding us at that very moment. Sometimes, no matter how hard we look, we never find. Perhaps it is time to pause. Just pause, and get out to look at the world or get in to look within. The answer is always there awaiting for us. All we need is clarity.
Everyone has the same number of hours in a day. How can we make use of all the hours we have wisely?
The human mind works best when it is quiet. The sense of pleasantness is something money cannot buy. It can only be obtained when our surrounding is serene. Serenity can come from within, or harvested from nature itself.
What do we do when everyone else is asleep?
Be different. Be unique.
Most people will drag their day to the midnight hours and tell themselves that the night is still young. While stretching ourselves beyond limits, we should actually do it wisely. Discipline is very important to achieve whatever goals we set in life. Many of times, we think that going out having fun till late nights is the way to mingle and connect with friends and opportunities. However, by doing that, we are actually selling off our time and health for a small return. We are lack of sleep and we drag our tiredness to the next day and the day after. What is it doing to our life?
If we really want to be successful, model how the top one percent (1%) of the people in the world live their life. If we really dig deep, we will find that they are all early risers. They sleep when the world is busy partying. They work when the world is asleep.
Stillness is before dawn. The air is freshest. The sky is still dark. Just as the birds are waking up. Just as the nature is beginning a new day, so are we. That is the best time to tap into our true potential. That is the best time to bring the best out of ourselves. That is the time when our mind is clearest.
Good morning early riser! The day is great and I am prepared for it.
The time just before dawn contains the most energy of all hours of the day. This has helped me become an early riser and an early doer. When I wake to see that it’s light out already, I feel the world has started without me.
Terri Guillemets, American author
White is the mother of all colours.
People from various countries and cultures have different representation of colours in life. While some prefer to have everything white, others may think that white brings disaster.
In the Chinese cultures around the world, white represents death. This is true at least for the older generation. We see very little pure white in the house of a Chinese family. Even when the walls are painted in white, it actually has a tint of yellow or pink in it. This is because after the death of any Chinese person, everything in the house is dressed in white, including the living people in the household and visitor. It is a form of respect for the dead. Back then, any other colour was forbidden.
As years past, it is not easy to get everyone attending funeral to be dressed all in white. While other colours may be allowed, the most commonly used colours are tinted white, blue of all hues, grey, and black. In the recent years, most colours are acceptable as long as they are not in any hot tones or have flowery patterns. This shows how time changes the way of life.
While white is commonly used for funerals in Chinese cultures, there are some that uses red instead. Red is the hottest colour known to humankind. The reason for such use is when a centennial passes on. This is because the person has lived up to such an age quite unreachable for the norm, it is a celebration and descendants are not allowed to mourn. Everyone in the family is happy that their elder lived such a long great life and finally able to meet with their maker.
Whatever white means to Chinese cultures, it does not matter as much anymore.
White is now commonly used in many places. People are prone to using more white than ever in their lives now, thanks to the trend makers.
The Western culture is so widely spread that people in most countries around the globe now wear white in weddings. A bride in white means purity. Love is the purest thing on earth. Love conquers all. Love means having a lasting relationship together as husband and wife, through thick and thin, health and sickness, wealth and poverty. Everyone is following suit this very culture. As time goes by, other tints of white are also acceptable to the brides. The most common tints are ivory, pink, blue, and olive.
White is also widely used by professionals. Doctors in white robes gives us the feeling that the area is free from bacteria and viruses. Scientists in white lab coats gives us the feeling that the experiments conducted in laboratories are safe for humans. Chefs in white aprons gives us the feeling that the kitchen is hygienic and the food they serve is edible. Beauticians in white uniforms gives us the feeling that the products they use is to make us brighter and healthier. Pilots in white shirts gives us the feeling that we can count on them.
While esthetics play an important role, changes in preferences also make a huge difference.
More electronic devices and accessories are changing from black to white. If we dare to be different, we will be the change maker and most often, these are the people who contributes largely to impact the lives of others.
It all started with Apple. They are the first innovative people to use white in their products. It may have had a rough start but it has proved that determination and believe puts them where they are now. Other companies are moving toward white because it gives their products a sense of classiness. White is trending and will remain in trend for many years to come.
While white may be the future, we have to acknowledge that white is not a simple colour to maintain. Dust can be seen easily. If we are to spill coffee, it may stain as well. Our hands can also cause dirt build up on any white surface. While we use white lights at home, the ultraviolet rays from them can cause any white products to turn slightly yellowish over time. It is unavoidable. All that matters is how we take care of all the whites we have.
White is the new norm. Though easily tainted, it is up to us to preserve.
White. A blank page or canvas. So
many possibilities.
Stephen Joshua Sondheim (Stephen Sondheim), American composer and lyricist, 1930-present
Perhaps this is the right time to be still and observe changes in life.
Observation is the best learning tool that everyone has. Somehow, along the way of growing up, we have decided that we have learnt enough and stopped this tool from functioning. It may be easier said than done. Keeping quiet for a period of time takes a lot of patience. Many no longer have the skills. Most of us always have the urge to interfere with events happening around us.
Sometimes, it may be the best solution to not interfere with the way of life but we are humans after all. We do have a heart and we cannot stand seeing unjust incidents. We have to help those in need. While this shows humanity working at its best, we may be creating individuals that rely on others for survival. The best that we should be doing instead is to offer help to those who are willing to make efforts for change.
Opportunities are everywhere. It is up to the individual to take action upon it. Some people just want to have a job that pays but are never willing to learn. They are hoping for others to finish the tasks for them. Every time someone try to teach them new things, they will pretend to learn and a few days later say that they are not aware of it or they do not know how to do it. Perhaps it is better to leave them alone with their tasks, never to help them complete any of it. While this may sound unhelpful, it is the best way to help the person.
Some people are rich, some are poor, mostly are on average. However, there will always be beggars in all corners of the world. Some are genuine because of disabilities while others may be just pretending to be. Most humans feel for other humans that look pitiful. Perhaps it is better to talk to them and offer them a job instead of just giving them dollars upon dollars, day by day. The last thing we want to do is to encourage people to become lazy. People may not believe so but there are beggar syndicates out there that uses children to beg for them. This is child labour to the max.
Many people have the heart for animals. Some are to the extreme. While we think that by providing them shelter and food, we are doing our best to protecting them. This may be true in a sense as life in the streets is harsh and the natural forests are depleting due to deforestation. The main thing is not to merely rescue the animals but to educate the people. As long as economy is concerned, natural habitats will deplete to the brink point of no return. By then, we would have diminished so many species to extinction.
While efforts to save other life on this planet lay in the hands of environmentalist and animal lovers, everyone else should learn to live better. We can all do our part to live a minimalist lifestyle. Most often, we purchase things that is in trend that we do not need, just to stay in-trend. What is the point?
We are not observing enough. Some say life is too busy to just sit still, even for a minute. But why not? If we can spend two hours watching a movie in the cinemas, why not just spend a few minutes to ponder upon what’s most important in life? If we can spend three hours enjoying fine dining in a posh restaurant, why not spend a few minutes to clear out clutter in life?
Clutter happens in many ways. It can be clutter in the house. Humans love to hog things that is beautiful or is seemingly important. If we take a step back and observe, we will realize that we only use a few items in the house. Most are white elephants left in the storage for years on end, collecting dust. Are these items really needed? Think before the next purchase.
The worst thing that can happen is clutter in the mind and the only way to clear that out is through observation. We live in the era of information technology; information is abundant. We only need to keep what is really useful. There is no point collecting all sorts of information that is of no relevance. We need to be still to find out.
Observe to be clear. Observe for wisdom.
To acquire knowledge, one must study; but to acquire wisdom, one must observe.
Marilyn vos Savant, American magazine columnist, author, lecturer, and playwright, 1946-present
Bottles come in many shapes and sizes, colours and functions.
The first bottle that we encounter are the baby bottles we hold in our hands when hungry. They have the best shape of all bottles. They used to be made of glass, which is really heavy for the small hands. Now, they are mostly made of plastic. They are much lighter and the shapes and colours become more attractive. Over the years, as people discover the dangers of plastic, parents are moving back to the safer option, glass.
As time goes by, we make new discoveries and decisions that change our lives for the better. We only look forward.
We can relate the life that we are living in to a bottle.
When we are born, we have no choice but to be the little fish living in the bottle. Our parents choose the contents they want to feed us with. We can be fed natural foods like worms and moss or we can be fed manmade granules which is supposedly compact with nutrients. Everything that our parents feed us with is the best we can get.
As we grow, the little bottle can no longer contain us. We overgrow and overflow with knowledge and choices. Which is better?
Perhaps we feel that being protected is still the best choice. We choose to live the way our parents tell us to, the safe way. We choose to live the way our teachers guide us to, the correct way. We believe that the elders are more experienced and they know what is best for us, or so we think. But what do they really know about us? Whose life are we living for?
We may feel stuck in one way or the other. May be it is time to shape ourselves and learn to be someone we really want to be. There is no point living the dreams of others while setting our own aside. In the end, we are the one walking ourselves till the last breath. We cannot expect anyone else to be there with us, though it may be wonderful.
Life may challenge us to the brink of giving up in whatever we do. However way we choose to live, there will always be events that arise against our wishes. At that point of time, we loathe them but when we quiet ourselves, we will find a way to go through or around them. Either way, we get past the challenge and move forward. There will come to a point when we pause and reflect back, we will understand that the past challenges we have been through are inevitable to growing us to become who we are now.
Life is not coated with sugar. Even if it was, sugar is versatile. It hardens when cool and melts when warm. It can be shaped, and coloured as to how we want it. It can be as pure and clear as glass or as fragrant and tasty when burnt. It can be dissolved and mixed to become something extraordinary. For the sweet toothed, sugar is a need. Whenever the person feels happy or sad, the first thing they will think of is dessert.
Lately, motivational speakers have created a way to make people understand the way of life with just a bottle and the contents in the bottle.
If we look at a bottle, it is in a fixed shape and size but what it contains make a huge difference in its function. We put stones in it to the top, and it seems full. We throw in peppercorns and observe that they fill in the voids between the stones, and it seems full. We add fine sugar and find that they even fill in the voids between the stones and peppercorns, and it seems full. We pour in water and find that it fills up all voids between the stones, peppercorns and fine sugar, and now it is really full. Overtime, we notice that fine sugar has dissolved into water. Some of the peppercorns will float while some stay submerged. The stones have not altered a bit. If we are to keep this bottle capped over decades, there may or may not be any further changes.
We have many choices. We can be the stone, the peppercorn, the fine sugar, the water, or even the bottle. Studying how objects behave in different situations and ponder upon them, and we will be surprised how it can change our mindset in life.
Whether we want to be the bottle or be contained in the bottle, is entirely up to us.
Inside my empty bottle I was
constructing a lighthouse while all others were making ships.
Dusan Simic (Charles Simic), Serbian
American poet, 1938-present
We all started as a blank sheet of paper.
We were all born in the form of an infant. We knew nothing about this world that we live in. We knew nothing about life. All we knew was to breathe, sleep, and feed. These were the only three things that we lived for at least in the first few weeks of our lives.
Some say that babies can see more clearly than any adult could and I do feel the same too. With a clear mind, anything is possible. All babies know are the basic needs of a human being. Slowly and surely, after a while babies learn from their parents. We learn compassion. We learn to smile. We learn to express ourselves as we thought be correct.
As we become toddlers, we learn play and communication. We learn new expressions. Soon enough, we discover that our minds can create many different ideas. We start to be creative and have dreams of becoming an inventor. All toddlers are great inventors.
Whenever new things are taught to a toddler, their imagination would run wild. Many things will come across their little brain and with their simple views, they will take immediate action in all their dreams. As a toddler, we probably have built castles with tiny Lego bricks because of the fairy tales that our parents read to us. Have we not?
We soon learn to read and observe even better. Reading creates wisdom to the blank voids in the brain. As toddlers start to go to school, they slowly become more avid readers. It is then important for parents to choose the suitable reading material for their children. Most parents would choose the best reading materials to the best of their knowledge and opinion. But what exactly is best for the child?
As children grow older, they will have their own judgements. They will make mistakes and learn. They will excel and learn. This learning process is continuous throughout our whole lives. Somehow, somewhere along the road to adulthood, a child’s imagination is sometimes frozen due to many reasons. Very few actually hold on to their dreams and strive to bring it to reality.
What is it that makes the minority win?
There is probably only one percent (1%) of the world’s population realizing their dreams and that makes them winners. This minority started as a blank page like all of us. The only eminence that differs them from the rest of us is their willpower to succeed.
Some people would tell me that successful people have genius minds. I would say that every single one of us is born a genius in our own way. It is most likely the way we were brought up, the people we encounter, and the strength of our minds that made the difference.
Just bear in mind that life is a constant transformation. Variation makes life interesting. We strive through different stages of life and thrive as we move on to the next level. Life is like a game play. There is always that ultimate goal that we want to reach but before we get there, we will surely face challenges. With every challenge we face, we learn something new. This shapes who we are.
There will of course be people who resist change. These are people who are in their comfort zone. There is no right or wrong in life. Different people will choose different paths. However, to my opinion, we should insist to be in the real comfort zone. What difference does it make?
Many people think their current lives of waking early and going to work to earn some money for necessity and stay happy as is will be good enough for them. But for me, comfort zone means to live a clear conscious life having space, love, and free of doubt. This means that I have the ability to help others help themselves to reach their goal in life. I hope to create more individuals like me to turn the world into a better place.
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Each individual has got to look themselves in the mirror and try and see what they can do better. Period. Point blank.
Jason Frederick Kidd (Jason Kidd), American professional
basketball coach, 1973-present
